Being the mother of a son that chooses to NOT drink alcohol has been one of the toughest things for me as a mother. It makes my heart want to explode with pride one minute and it also rips my heart in half the very next minute.
My 19-year-old son has made a very conscious decision to abstain from ever drinking booze. I never had the balls to say, “No!” That’s why I wound up drinking like a fish from the time I was 14 until I turned 23, when I entered a 30-day treatment facility.
I couldn’t be more proud of my son. I know how hard it is for him to “say no.” I know other kids make fun of my son for not partaking in drinking.
One mother I know said her child said, “What’s Joey going to do with us? Sit and watch us drink?”
Well, yeah he is going to sit and shoot the breeze, just not drink.
Because of his choice, he has become somewhat of an outcast in our teenage society.
I just wish other people would respect him for his choice.
I don’t know how many times I have told people that my son does not drink, only to hear, “Well, that’s what he’s telling you.”
Well to all you doubters out there – “I believe him with my whole heart and soul!”
Does this make him a bad person? In my eyes, it makes him one of the strongest people I know.
He has good reason for choosing to abstain from alcohol. I am a recovering alcoholic and another family member is an active alcoholic. I have been nothing but honest with both my sons about what alcoholism has done to me and my family. They see first hand how family members with addictions affect the entire extended family.
It absolutely tears my heart apart that, because he is making a smart, difficult decision, society chastises him.
As a mother, I couldn’t ask for a more wonderful, caring son. He is patient, kind and hard-working. Isn’t that what every mother wishes?
That wish came true for me, but my son is a social outcast. It’s so hard to explain. I am so proud because he chooses not to drink, and has stood up to peer pressure. But it’s also so difficult to see him be chastised for that very decision. Sometimes I feel like telling him to drink, just so he would fit it. That’s AWFUL!
It seems to me that it’s acceptable for teenagers to drink. I know parents that provide the booze and the place. In my eyes, that is just wrong!
Isn’t it time that it’s acceptable for teenagers to not drink.
And if there are any other mothers that have any advice on how to handle my emotions, I would love to hear from you.